Would you consider yourself an extrovert or an introvert? Have you ever really thought about it? While I’m riding on the wave of self-improvement which happens every January I thought it would be appropriate to do some personality self-assessments! But how does the knowledge of our personality types help us? How can it benefit you in your fitness goals or your co-operation in work? Read more to find out…
A friend recommended doing some personality tests which is based on Jungs typology. Take the test by clicking here to find out what I’ll be rambling on about. It comes as no surprise that I am an extrovert, for those who know me can confirm I would and could talk to a blank wall – that said, I’m not an ‘in your face’ outspoken and uncontrolled extreme example of an extrovert. In response to Bangs and a Bun’s uplifting article (read here) about being an introvert, I thought I’d turn the coin on it’s head by talking about the world for an extrovert.
- are interested in what is happening around them
- are open and often talkative
- compare their own opinions with the opinions of others
- like action and initiative
- easily make new friends or adapt to a new group
- say what they think
- are interested in new people
- easily break unwanted relations
When I found out I was an ENFJ (Extroverted iNtuition Feeling Judging) the character profile fitted the bill. With the exception of one thing, I’m not an in-your-face-extrovert and I’m used to doing things by myself so do I fully fit the extrovert mould? ENFJs are people orientated and can only be truly fulfilled day to day with human interaction and socialising. ENFJs are perceptive and sensitive to other people’s feelings, they’re driven to help other people’s needs at the sacrifice of their own at times. Their gift with understanding a wide range of people mean they could potentially use these skills to get what they want. (this is in the case of a less developed ENFJ – how on earth you become more or less developed in your character profile is beyond me). I like the logic behind these personality types, I’m not molding myself around the definition moreover re-affirming who I am and what drives me to do the things I do.
There are problems with being an ENFJ and Buzzfeed have obviously formed an accurate list on this (click here). The one I was encountering before the weekend is #9 Dealing with unexpected alone time. I genuinely consider a day without any plans to socialise with someone, a grey nothing day and feel guilty for having OJ-time. How crazy is it, that when I was reading about my personality type it re-affirmed some of the feelings I get if i’m not socialising, like guilt! What’s even worse, a bad or mediocre conversation that hasn’t felt like I’ve connected to someone properly feels innately disappointing which is sometimes why group interactions don’t always tick the box. I think that being an extrovert you often seek back what you give out and when you don’t get it you feel disappointed. Infact, ENFJ’s are so outward facing that they become a sponge for the attitudes from others which can affect making a good decision.
When an ENFJ doesn’t feel affirmed with their sense of place, things go wrong. “An ENFJ who has not found their place in the world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to worry excessively and feel guilty.” I have to hold up my hand and say, I’m crazily sensitive, I do worry alot, and I always manage to feel guilty about something. So it’s probably time I go find my place in the world, hey?
I totally respect @bangsandabun (Twitter) for being completely honest in acknowledging her introverted ways and coming up with constructive advice to self-medicate herself by actively taking more time out to socialise. I guess my own practical advice for other outward-facing-individuals who have slight introverted tendencies would be to learn to form your own judgement based on what you want, and not based on the interests or opinions of others. I think an imperative is to stop any feelings of guilt or harsh self-assessment the moment something goes wrong, it’s not going to EVER get to the point where I have motivational lines written on post-it notes above my toilet roll holder but a bit of positive reinforcement every now and then wouldn’t be so bad.
Thanks to the Little Rascals video stills that has helped me illustrate this point.